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If wasn't just a matter of ratio, but the culture surrounding the app. When Tinder was new, women could hide their identity or have multiple identities. That's a key element that many overlook or don't realize. Women who are really about the action, can want to keep a low profile, and hide what they do. They can meet guys from out of town, be married, try different ethnic groups, engage in wild fantasies, etc... All without it being so easily traced backed to them and hopefully hidden.

This is very different (if not the opposite) from what the average person often knows or thinks, where many think sexually adventurous women like to or want to openly advertise. That's usually incorrect. Those women being so flamboyant, openly advertising, or even being aggressive are often trying to sell something or make sales quotas. Unfortunately, many guys get pulled into the trick.

Additionally, when Tinder was new, it arguably positioned itself as the heterosexual version of Grindr. The culture was different. Thus lots of encounters would happen.

Then came the complaints, whining, moral grandstanding, etc... Tinder succumbed to the pressure and pulled a kind of bait and switch. They started to confirm profiles, track, and make profiles publicly accessible to be linked to. The combination scared a lot of "out for fun" women off, because clearly they don't want people sending their profile everywhere or being so easily identifiable on the internet. Tinder tried to be more Facebook-like than Grindr-like, and way more about pulling as much money from male customers than being concerned about people actually meeting up.

When Tinder changed and the culture attached to it, then came even more scammers, pranksters, catfish, and attention-seekers. The ratio of who is really with it and who is not changed. With the changes, also comes more of the usual dating site games and "cover stories" (to protect their reputation and profile), like having to pretend to be "good" and looking for "true love only" or the mindset of only doing it for the business (like OnlyFans or almost/actual prostitution). This all usually comes at the expense or the abuse of male users.



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